I'm not trying to butt in here cuz I know nothign about what's going on in Public RP nor really how you play the characters. (Though I encourage people to change the public RP flavor if they dont like it but that's another topic
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But having read all the threads and the posts about the deaths - to me it seems to be that noone is of the opinion that you shouldn't do what you did to your characters. It was more in the HOW you did it that upset people. And by How I dont mean the mechanics of their deaths, but more that it left whomever was RPing with you flapping in the wind.
Having been left flaping in the wind I understand that frustration. But people tend to deal with that better when its the result of a player leaving the game. To be left intentionally and without warning, flapping in the wind - it just feels more personal and hurtful.
That's from my own experiences of being left flappign in the wind RP/IC wise, I can't speak for any others, but from what I've read betwee you and others who post here - that semed more to be where the upset'ness was comin from.
Wether you care or not or wether that matters is another topic. But I just felt a need to say it. I am not getting why this is so confusing to you, so the helper in me wanted to try and help the understanding I guess.